Shape & Size: Your anatomy might influence the type of grinder you decide to try—for instance, people with penises may enjoy a wide grinder that can wrap around their shaft to some extent, while people with vulvas may prefer a smaller grinder that puts focused pressure on the clitoris. That being said, these are just guidelines; ultimately, you know your body and preferences best.
Stability: Naturally, when you grind against a toy, you want it to stay put instead of moving along with you, which can reduce the stimulation. So, depending on which positions you like to grind in, you might want to prioritize toys that can hold their ground, whether because they’re large and heavy, have a non-slip base, or are just shaped in such a way that they don’t move around much.
Vibration: Some grinders vibrate; some have a slot where you can insert a vibrator of your own; and some don’t offer any vibration at all. A well-lubed toy with pleasurable texture can be stimulating enough on its own for some people, but vibration is worth at least considering because it can make grinding feel much more intense.
How We Tested
I’ve tried over 400 sex toys in over 12 years of writing about them professionally, including several designed for grinding. The best ones are intuitive to use, comfortable, versatile, and—of course— pleasurable. While I’ve mainly used grinders solo, I’ve also tested them in situations like dry-humping with a partner and having strap-on sex. I also asked some experts about their favorite grinders and how they like to use them.
About the Author
Kate Sloan is a writer specializing in sex and kink, who has reviewed hundreds of sex toys in over a decade on the sex beat. She is the author of the books 101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do and 200 Words to Help You Talk About Sexuality & Gender, and cohosts the podcasts The Dildorks and Question Box.
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